Saturday, 6 September 2014

Why is Wedding Planning So Scary?

Vintage Marquee Wedding Top Table

When Rich and I got engaged last summer (read our relationship story here) I was ecstatic, I had been hoping for it to happen for months, and there was nothing I wanted more. I was blissfully happy and was telling everyone I ran into about the story and showing off my new sparkly ring. It was only when I was asked about setting a date that reality dawned. I was going to have to plan a wedding.

Now don't get me wrong, I have always loved daydreaming about my wedding day, what I would wear, what I would have and who I would share it with, however the reality of having to actually choose things and book stuff was very scary. I didn't feel grown up enough to plan viewings, and book and pay for things which were going to cost so much money and affect so many people. Don't get me wrong, I wanted to be married, I still cannot wait to be a Mrs, and be permanently linked to Rich, I just didn't want to arrange it. I wish we could afford a planner, but that luxury is far out of our price range!

Wedding Name Place Holder Rachel

Planning an elopement ran through my head, but I have a really big immediate family, so when I started counting the people who I wouldn't want to get married without, and then adding the best friends who I want to party with afterwards, there was no choice but to have the big traditional white wedding I have always dreamed of.

As I had a grace period for the planning as Rich was away, it has given me a lot more time to get used to the idea, and seeing some of our best friends get married this year has spurred me on even more. Almost as soon as Rich got back I was showing him venues online, and we have actually now set our date, booked our venue and put a deposit down on a registrar. I am really happy with our choices, but I am still convinced I am doing it all wrong and I'm going to miss something vital. Surely others feel like this though, usually you only do it the once, so everyone starts out being a bit clueless at least?

The next thing we need to book is a photographer, and as that is one of the two things which last forever (the rings being the other one) I am finding it very difficult to decide!

Do you have any wedding planning tips for me? Or links to any other bloggers who have got married and talked about the planning process? All help is welcomed!

Rachel xx


  1. I know a girl who got married recently and pretty much planned it all herself (her fella was away being a hero). You should speak to her. She'll have loads of great advice.

  2. I got married in August after a three year engagement but only seven months after we set the date. I blogged about it a little but to be honest, thanks to family drama and stress, I didn't really enjoy the planning process. I always wanted to please everyone and I was scared to forget something important. It was all worth it in the end though. We had a really lovely day and now I get to call the love of my life my husband.

    My only advice to you would be try not to worry over the little things. Nothing but actually marrying each other on the day matters. You won't be concerned about this or that little thing by the time the morning of your big day arrives. Just try and enjoy it all.

    Debi x

  3. It sounds like you've got the right approach to your wedding- you're more excited about being a Mrs, declaring your love publically, and partying with your besties. It sounds like you've sorted all of the crucial things already so just focus on looking forward to getting married :)
    Laura ( and Becks ( both blogged about their lovely DIY weddings and are sweet as pie to boot xxx

  4. It sounds like you've got the right idea - the only advice I have is just do it your way! There's no right or wrong way to do a wedding, have whatever you want and as long as you've got each other and someone to do the legal but of the service, that's all you need - anything else is a bonus.
    We left out loads of 'usual' things - we had no order of service, no seating plan, no three course meal, no first dance, no table favours - and everyone said it was one of the best and most fun weddings they'd been to in a long time.
    Just remember, it's *your* (and your husband's) day and everyone else is just a guest - then can put up with whatever you want! :-) xx


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